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To Parents in Wartime

Children In Wartime No. I
Bureau Publication 282

CHILDREN’S BUREAU
United States Department of Labor

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To Parents in W artime
The first line of
defense is the home!
S armies march, planes fly, ships sail, and factories
hum with the tremendous effort of total war, the
security, the protection, and the morale of the families
at home are fundamental to our success.

Our children

are as much a concern of our Government in this emer­
gency as are the soldiers and munitions workers who
carry on the war directly.

Nowhere in the world have

children held the place of prime importance in the
scheme of living and in the thoughts and consideration
of adults as in the United States.

Nowhere is there a

body of more conscientious parents earnestly and
eagerly trying to provide the most intelligent care for
the physical and mental health and development of
their children.

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Parents should prepare for defense
HEN war was declared, parents all over the United
States had the same immediate reaction. Through their
minds flashed the images of their children wherever they were
and whatever they were doing, with the accompanying
thoughts: Are they safe? What must we do to protect them?
How can we help them through the war days to come?

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Newspapers, schools, clinics, teachers, and doctors were
beset by inquiries about how parents should handle this emer­
gency with respect to their children— an eloquent proof that
our boast about our American parenthood is justified. Parents
want to meet this new challenge as they have met the other
less spectacular ones in the past, with courage and wisdom.

The question they want answered is—

How? . . .
Tw o principal suggestions to parents are the result of real
agreement in all the answers made to this question. They are
perhaps disappointing in their undramatic firmness, but they
both require a great deal of thought and effort.

1. Prepare yourselves to face whatever may come.
2. Help your children to continue living their everyday lives
with as little change as possible.

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the

first

suggestion

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Prepare

yourselves to face whatever may come
Yo ur children can
take it if you can

R A N K L Y , every parent is anxious. Every intelligent adult
must recognize the dangers, the upsets, and the changes
involved in the total war we are all embarked upon. Parents
must, with the help of the community, appraise the real
situation in which they specifically live. So how are parents
to behave even though anxious about their children?

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Intelligent fear can he helpful
The dangers and risks that parents may have to face produce
an actual fear that might better be admitted to themselves to
start with. But there is a vast difference between an intelligent
facing of a difficult or even dangerous situation and an anxious
and destructive dread of an unprepared-for blow.

Children sense the feelings of those they love
Children, far more than adults realize, sense the underlying
thoughts and feelings of those they love. What parents think
and feel about a situation has far more effect than anything
they may say.
Therefore it is wiser to be honest with your
children and to command their respect by talking to a certain
extent and quite normally about the danger of air raids and
fires and the possibility of separations in the family when such
dangers and possibilities actually exist.

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C a ll things by their right names
Above all, don’ t suppress or banish from family conversation
all reference to war. It is a topic your children will certainly
hear discussed everywhere else. Children can bear reality
much better than the uncertainty created by a mystery. A
specific suggestion on this point may be helpful: Use the same
words that are heard constantly in school* on the street, and
over the radio. D on’ t make up pretty names to soften the
meaning of terms like “ black-out,” “ alarms,” “ explosions,”
and the like. If an air-raid drill is planned at home, don’ t
call it “ a sort of fire drill.” Fear of words communicates
fear of the situation itself to the sensitive imagination of a child.

Appraise clangers frankly
It is always best for him to hear of possible dangers from those
he loves most. It is best for him to realize very early that those
he trusts are preparing to face emergencies with him. This frank
appraisal of dangers where they actually exist is an important
step toward the sort of behavior that parents want to achieve
even though they cannot escape their anxiety for their children.

W hen we are busy we ha ve little time to worry
The next step follows from the fact that dependence of some­
one else on us for calm and strength often helps us to behave as
though we really had both. And behaving as though we were
calm for the sake of others finally produces a degree of real
calm. With reasonable conviction and courage we can try
to understand what is ahead of us and what we should do
about it. We must satisfy ouselves that we have taken every
reasonable precaution. Then, the busier we are with those
things that really need to be done, the less time we shall have
to indulge ourselves in useless worries about things that may
never happen anyway.

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A nxiety
siXIETY is normal, natural, useful. It is a signal that
awakens and prepares the individual to meet impending
danger. This state of mind that we call anxiety is characterized
by alertness, awareness, and fear appropriate to the situation
that creates the anxiety. Increased blood supply and oxygen
provide the fuel for additional bodily activity and, in associa­
tion with increased muscular tone and acuteness of sight and
hearing, represent a sort of “ getting up steam” process that
anticipates and prepares for action.

Anxiety is a natural emotion
Anxiety is closely associated with the instinct for self-preserva­
tion, and its function is that of protecting the individual by m ak-.
ing him aware and ready to meet a crisis. Anxiety is not some­
thing to be ashamed of. Like grief, anger, and joy, it is a normal
emotional response to a life situation and should be looked upon
as having a perfectly normal background and a useful function.

The chronic worrier contributes little
There are those individuals, however, who seem to be in a
state of continuous anxiety. They are the worriers of the
world. They seem to suffer from constant anticipation of the
worst, and consequently they are susceptible to anything that
tends to increase their ever-present sense of insecurity. Such
individuals are extremely sensitive to gossip and rumor, and in
their effort to be reassured they spread their pessimistic tales
from one person to another, and usually the tales become more
and more gloomy the more frequently they are told. Truly it
may be said that they are the type who see the hole but never
the doughnut. These individuals, whether they be parents,
teachers, or other adults to whom children would naturally
turn in time of danger, will have nothing to contribute but a
reflection of their own sense of insecurity.

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Children often worry because those around them worry
Children who have the misfortune to have been brought up in
an environment dominated by such individuals, not infre­
quently take on a similar pattern of thinking and acting; and
such children well may be in need of special consideration in
time of crisis. It will be important and helpful for these chil­
dren to be in a group with others who entertain a more normal,
healthier outlook and are able to participate in the occupations
and diversions that may be created for just such emergencies.

Each child's temperament is different
E must keep in mind also that the temperaments and
dispositions of children vary markedly in the same fami­
lies and that something deeper and more fundamental than
environmental influences may be the cause of their timidity
and anxiety. In their efforts to allay undue fears, parents
should try to evaluate the particular needs of each child.
One child may be self-reliant.— Tommy, aged 5, a keen, alert,
busy, “ out-going” sort of lad, has a very active military
existence in his play life. His toys are a miniature rifle, a
soldier hat, a cannon, a bomber, and an army truck. Most
of his play activity is reduced to war games, and much of his
conversation has to do with his concept of war. He is a
sturdy boy who takes everything in his stride, and his imagi­
nary ideas are immediately converted into objective activities.
He has no fear or even anxiety and has found a satisfactory
outlet for his fantasies in objective play.
Another needs more reassurance.— Phyllis, aged 8, has been
unduly perturbed for the past 2 years about the war situation.
Frequently her nights are disturbed by terrifying dreams,
and she is constantly demanding reassurance from her mother
that nothing is going to happen to her or to her family.
This youngster has always been a sensitive child. She com ­
plains about her looks, that she is not liked by other children,

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that she doesn’ t get a square deal. She thinks that life is
pretty difficult and is always seeking attention.
The difference in temperament of these two children, even
though they belong to the same family, is somewhat indicative
of the importance of considering every child as needing indi­
vidual consideration.

Teach them that fear is not cowardice
It will be most helpful for all children to understand that
being afraid is not being cowardly and that life presents in
our everyday routine many situations that require unusual
courage— the tooth that has to be pulled; telling the truth
when we know that someone we love is going to be unhappy
and that punishment may result; speaking for the first time
before the class; the first ride on a bicycle or perhaps a venture­
some slide down a very steep hill; the first spring from a diving
board. These are all experiences attended by a bit of anxiety,
sometimes actual fear, but most children will recall that fear
of what was going to happen was worse than the actual
experience.

Children should not he teased because they fear
It is very important that children should not be teased or
humiliated because of their fears, but encouraged to carry
on bravely in spite of them in an environment that is as
normal, natural, and happy as circumstances shall permit.
Most children will find out that they have the capacity to
“ take it,” and as soon as the initial reaction to danger has
passed they will have a sense of relief and new courage, and
confidence will be established with which to meet subsequent
threats.

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WHICH BRINGS US TO THE SECOND
suggestion

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H elp your children

to continue their everyday lives with
as little change as possi ble
AREN TS will have to prepare themselves for a long job
of maintaining family morale under emergency conditions.
This can best be done by going about the daily business of
living as much as possible as though conditions were normal.
Under most circumstances parents have the delicate task of
adjusting to members of the family who differ in age, tempera­
ment, and needs. Under circumstances of national emergency
each one of these individual needs is peculiarly and particularly
emphasized.

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W ar brings new pressures on the family
The adults in the family are under new pressures in regard
to work, to financial problems, to shifts in living conditions.
Husbands will have longer hours of work; the rise in prices
will affect the food budget; some items and some materials
may be short and others may have to be substituted; the place
of work or the home itself may be moved— any or all of these
changes will bring along with them perplexing problems for
the grown people in the family to solve. W omen will realize
that their husbands are facing important changes in their
work at the same time that their children have need of par­
ticular attention. Husbands will be aware of this complexity
in their wives’ responsibilities and must be prepared for their
anxiety and occasional confusion about where to place their
emphasis at a particular moment.

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Each member of the family should feel useful
The elderly members are likely to feel useless and in the way.
It would be helpful to find some way to make them feel valuable
and to find occupations that will relieve their anxieties or at
least keep them manageable. Each adult in a family must
try to understand and be as sympathetic as possible toward
the others who are having to adjust to new tensions, pressures,
excitement, and changes. Total war cannot leave anyone
untouched, no matter how physically safe or remote.

Prepare your children for defense
ACH child in the family will feel the crisis differently
I and will understand it in terms of his age, sex, and
temperament— his own unique make-up. It is the business
of parents to understand these differing reactions so far as
possible and to be ready whenever their help is needed.
Fathers are always enormously important in their children’ s
lives— never more so than in times of anxiety and confusion.
And yet, in war they are likely to be away from home for
longer hours of work or in service of one sort or another and
to be tired and preoccupied when they are at home. Even
so, fathers, knowing that their strength and influence are vital
to the whole family, should try to stay close to their children
and to be with them as much as possible. This may mean
changing some of the hours for meals or even bedtime, but it
will be well worth the children’s losing some sleep for the sake of
seeing their father. They will feel greater security under changed
conditions if they know the family is facing life together.
O f course, this will be more difficult if the father’ s work or
service takes him completely out of the home. But he can
still remain in the thoughts and conversation as an important
part of the children’ s lives and an essential part of the family
itself. During wars there are fewer and fewer men about,
and children miss them and sense an upset in the normal

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balance of life. If the father must be away altogether, per­
haps other male relatives may be ready to assume some respon­
sibility toward the children. Group activities led by men in
the neighborhood or in school or church will help without
changing the loyalty and affection of a child for his own
father and home.

The little child
X is a comfort to parents to know that their very small
children, even through kindergarten age, cannot imagine
or see in the future what our anxieties and knowledge make
very real to us. They can imagine only what they themselves
have experienced. They may seem to understand because they
pick up the terms that other people around them use. Sensing
fear or anxiety, they may describe things with the same words
as are current with adults but which do not have the same
meanings for them. For instance, one little boy understands
the war as a big game to catch Hitler. Another very depend­
able child tells about his dreams of Hitler coming over here
and taking everything away. T o most small children Hitler
symbolizes all “ badness,” and is the object of their feeling
of antagonism.

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Treat their problems normally, unexcitedly
Actually children will show fear less by their words than by
their actions. They may be irritable, hard to please, restless,
or they may even make the most of the chance to get special
attention and privileges. A kindergarten teacher reported
that after the first air-raid drill there was next day an irritability
and restlessness throughout the group that the children them­
selves couldn’ t connect with anything in particular. Try to
treat all these behavior problems as normally as you can; try
not to let any of your children, whatever their ages, live in
anxious anticipation of dangers that do not exist.

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The little child needs personal comfort
When a situation arises to cause actual fear, such as alarming
war talk, drills, or an event of real danger, parents know from
long experience that the best way to comfort a little child is
to take him in their arms, to cuddle him close, or hold his
hand. The only security he knows is the personal one of the
grown people in his life, and their protection is essential to
him in moments of insecurity and fear. This protected feeling
can be given in the simplest and most direct fashion by giving
the little child physical security and comfort.
In preparing for defense, all parents need to do is to remember
their own childhood experiences and the things that have
happened in the past with their children, to take note of the
way they felt and acted so that when an emergency arises they
will automatically do what will comfort and sustain each
member of the family. The little child can feel your fears
through your touch, even though your face and voice seem
calm, but it is wise to remember that if you have confidence in
yourself he too will be calm.

G ive simple instructions, and not too many
Another suggestion about the little child is to avoid too
much drilling and preparation, but instead to give a few very
simple and specific instructions and some small responsibility
that is especially his to be occupied with— what he is to do,
where he is to go, and a favorite toy to be taken with him.
It would be well to shift his toys occasionally, so that he does
not become too attached to one. Little children derive much
comfort and reassurance from familiar things, so a well-loved
object will help at once to make unfamiliar surroundings seem
less strange and fearful.
One important bit of advice comes out of the experience of
England. Let your children express their fears frankly.
D on’ t let them try too hard to be brave. It is going to be per­
fectly natural for children as well as adults to be frightened
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by some things that may occur, even by the talk and uncer­
tainty and preparations in the community Let them see the
naturalness of their fear. Let them express it. Try to be nat­
ural yourselves. Reassure them by the physical comfort of
contact and warmth and food, and the possession of some
favorite toy to cling to.

The grade-school group
ENERALLY speaking, the child in the grades has quite
different reactions from the little ones at home or in
kindergarten. The boy or girl of 8 or 10 is intensely interested
in activity and in the way things work. He is quite alive to
all that is going on around him. He likes to dramatize his
activities as well as the things that he sees and hears. The
war, remote or near at hand, will give him considerable excite­
ment and fun. Already many school children are changing their
time-honored game of prisoner’s base and cops and robbers to
air raids and ambulance and stretcher drills and real war games.

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They still need to feel close to their parents
This is all right for the daytime, but these same children
away from the gang at night are often subject to daydreams and
nightmares of very real terror. Often what children of this
age suffer in their own imaginations when alone is far worse
than any reality and actually more harmful. A child of this
age has begun to belong to a gang and to make some efforts
at emancipation from home. But with all his apparent inde­
pendence he is in need of parental support when he is worried or
frightened. It is essential that parents, even while they allow
this child his independence and group activity, should keep in
close and tactful contact with him, so that he may express to
them his fears and anxieties. His wish to talk over his worries
is more likely to be expressed at nighttime when he is away
from the security of the group.
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G ive them some responsibilities
Suggestions to help this age are: First, a frank discussion of
the facts about the war and the particular situation of the
family. This will help to get rid of imagined horrors. Then,
to bring fantasy and reality closer together, children of school
age should have definite duties and responsibilities. There
should be group discussions in school and at home, and specific
tasks should be assigned. Mothers can plan beforehand with
their children to do certain things— depending on them to put
up window curtains, to see that little children stay away from
windows, and similar tasks. They can be junior air-raid
wardens, can do junior Red Cross work and first aid, and can
start learning many things that will be useful to them and the
community later. At the same time they will be dealing
actively with reality, and in facing reality they will be getting
help for themselves.

The adolescent group

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ITTLE as we are likely to think so, the adolescent group
J is going to require our understanding and support as
much as the other two. We instinctively protect our little
children, and we know the continuing need of our young
school children. But the high-school girl and boy and those
just starting to work present problems at all times that are
complex and often difficult to understand. More than any
other group in the community are their lives profoundly
changed and their difficulties increased by war. We can
maintain our young children’ s lives reasonably the same under
changing conditions; we can celebrate birthdays, have small
parties, transfer their usual games to war interests with a mini­
mum of upset. But adolescence is a terrific speeding-up
process anyway and war makes it more so.
War forces our young people to grow up almost overnight.
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their places in home service at an age when ordinarily we
are still treating them as big children. Under war conditions
adults are needed and demanded, and our eager, conscientious
youth are going to meet that demand. They will be taking
a responsible place in the community and in the home, and
their capacities will be developing at breathtaking speed.

Be sensitive to their changes of mood
At the same time, though the adolescent’ s imagination is
fully developed and his sense of duty especially keen, a heavy
toll of his emotions is going to be taken. At this particular
age he will not show his emotions as directly as younger
children, or even as simply as adults do. Adolescents try to
hide their feelings from adults, so let us be as sensitive as we
can to the changes of mood that they will be feeling, and at
the same time let us respect their wish for privacy. War
rushes the process of moving from the complete protection of
infancy to the emancipation of adulthood, but it cannot
altogether alter that process. Occasionally our adolescents
will return to their childhood need of protection, comfort,
and security. Let us try now more than ever to recognize
this need when it arises and be ready to satisfy it.

Help them to grow up wisely
Specific problems will arise in connection with adolescent
responsibilities and opportunities. For instance, young people
will become economically independent much earlier in war­
time. This sudden growing up is not all a loss. Many of
our youth have lived through a lot of deprivation during the
depression, and the opportunity for work is a real advantage
and will make up for some of the things they have not had.
The boy or girl who has had no money or has had a small
weekly allowance will go out and get a jo b and be earning his
own freedom and planning his own recreation.

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Again, early marriages are a part of the speeding-up process
and may be looked upon with disfavor or even fear for the
future. But really it will be reassuring to parents to know that
early marriage is far better than the postponement that
occurred for financial reasons during the depression. The big
problem is to help adolescents to use their new freedom and
independence wisely. Parents cannot expect the same rules
and behavior to be maintained now as in other days. But
they can suggest sensible uses for money and plans for savings,
can be sympathetic with young love affairs, and can recognize
the growing adult in their midst.

The more responsibilities they can assume, the better
The best safeguard for our prematurely adult young people
is to take them fully into preparations for defense and actual
war work. The more responsibilities they can assume, the
more naturally they and their families can accept their rela­
tively sudden maturity. Girls can take over more duties at
home. Outside, in addition to Red Cross and other war
work, they can help in nursery schools and centers for child
care. Boys can take their turn as airplane spotters and at
other defense duties and can also prepare in their spare time
for specific jobs in radio, airplane, and auto mechanics and
repair work, scientific farming and gardening, and the like.
Those still in school should have definite courses directed to­
ward war and relief training, home and farm economics with
a special view to the war situation; out-of-school hours should
be filled with jobs that will satisfy their urge to be of service
and their need for adult responsibility.

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Prepare your family for its wartime
place in tne community
AREN TS are the most important adults in a child’ s life.
Their behavior and way of living under all conditions have
the most profound effect on their children. But all are mem­
bers of a community and share in a common responsibility
for the schools, the local defense councils, and the national
Government. It is not enough to use common sense and good
judgment in keeping a normal balance at home, for school has
a large place in every child’ s life, and his education and his
experiences with his own group are of vital importance to him.
From Washington to the smallest village, our Government of
which each one of us is a part is concerned with our welfare
and safety and above all with the protection of our children
and of the family group. Each community is working out its
own plans within the general plan, and cooperation to the full­
est extent is urgently desired. In emergencies all must follow
common instructions which will differ in each community and
school according to the particular needs of each. All eventual­
ities, no matter how remote, are being taken into account,
and plans are being made for them. Many of the plans may
never be needed, but it is reassuring to know that every possible
precaution is being taken for the children’ s safety, health, and
happiness. For instance, plans are under consideration for
evacuation if that should ever be necessary, and no effort will
be spared to prevent the home and school life from being upset
any more than it has to be.
If parents can realize that when their children are beyond
the range of their own protective care they are under that of
people in schools or community groups specially selected and
trained for the job, they will face the future with greater courage
and confidence. Each one, in developing confidence in him­
self and in those working together for the benefit of all, helps
to safeguard the children, the home, and the Nation.

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Group activities
ONFIDENCE in and cooperation with teachers, those
directing the community programs of preparedness, and
the national Government is a part of the jo b that parents
are undertaking in the big scheme of defense. Other adults
besides a child’s parents can and do feel the deepest concern
and responsibility for him. They can and do give him wise
and loving care. Sometimes children, especially adolescents,
express themselves more freely and take advice more easily
from older friends outside the family circle than they do at
home. Often an adult of tact, wisdom, and sympathy can be
the center of a whole group of young people who will unbur­
den themselves there without fear of increasing the perplex­
ities of their families. Such grown people, often parents
themselves, will have an important place in the community
program for defense.

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Children find strength in one another
Activities of peacetime will be increased in such groups as
church clubs and young people’s associations, in Scout troops,
recreation centers, and similar groups. Experience has shown
that even little children derive a great deal of security and
comfort from other children and from members of a group.
The school-age child who has begun to get his satisfaction
from the gang finds great enjoyment and security in his
group. From that time on, group contacts mean more and
more to children. It is also true that children of all ages
help each other to overcome fear and develop a companion­
ship in interests together and in physical contact with each
other like holding hands, or even touching one another, that
is almost as fundamentally protective as the security offered
by adults. For instance, one little child in an English center
always went to sleep with his hand on the shoulder of the
child in the cot next to his.

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An example of children’ s group interests and support and
the wise care of adults in charge of them comes from the
first air-raid test in a large city in this country. A little boy
of 6 on his return home was asked what had happened, where
they went, and what they did. At first he said it was a secret
and he couldn’ t tell. On further questioning it seemed his class
had continued their Christmas preparations in the place assigned
to them for safety, and the boy’ s one idea was not to let out
the secret of his mother’ s Christmas present! The air-raid
drill had not made the slightest impression on him or his class.
W e are told that in England children sleep through air
raids and that'they have shown very little emotional disturbance
due to this experience. A recent broadcast1 from England
is interesting not only on this point but in relation to other
points made in this pamphlet. The people of Australia in
preparing for possible bombing by Japanese asked how their
children were likely to stand it. In answer to this question the
broadcast stated:
“ Our experience ought to encourage them. The school
medical officer of the county of London reported last week
that there was no evidence among London children of any
nervous disorder or shock caused by air raids. They stood it
as well as adults, maybe better. Nor did living in air-raid
shelters do them any harm. W e had no epidemic of disease.
“ The bad effects seemed to be first on their education.
When hundreds of thousands of the children were evacuated
to the country there was a shortage of school buildings. The
schools were taken over for Civilian Defense, and a good
many children got little or no education. When the problem
was fully understood it was put right, and by last June nearly
98 percent of British children were once more getting full-time
schooling.
“ The second bad effect was an increase in what is called
juvenile delinquency, but what the ordinary parent calls
1 Rebroadcast by W O R on Sunday, January 11, 1942, of a BBC broad­
cast by E. A. Montague.

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‘naughtiness.5 A lot more children got in trouble with the
police in the first year of the war than in the la st. . . The causes
were chiefly the breaking up of the home life and home dis­
cipline. Fathers were in the army and mothers were doing
war work. Children had too much time on their hands. Not
being able to go to school, the ease of stealing from bombed
buildings and the excitement of the war in general helped them
to kick up the devil-.55
This broadcast went on to emphasize the problem of the 16or-17-year-old boy who suddenly earns high wages. Not
having had much if any money before, he has no idea how to
spend it, and in England it was found that he spent it on excite­
ments and foolish pleasures that finally got some of them into
more or less serious trouble. The solution seems to be to
reduce the amount of spending money and to have the balance
put into various sorts of savings and defense budgets. This
lets the adolescent help carry the burden of the war as an adult
would and at the same time provide for his own future.
The most important things we can learn from this report are
that children do not suffer so greatly from anxiety or shock but
that the upset in home life and in their schooling has the worst
effect upon them. It is an encouraging message, especially
in view of the fact that all the plans of our Government have
taken this into account and are calculated to avoid disturbance
to family and school routine so far as that may be possible.

Prepare your children by
helping them face life
E cannot protect our children from life. W e can only
help them to face it and go forward. In order to be a part
of the community, children must take their own share of respon­
sibility along with adults. It is conceivable that if children
are separated from their parents during periods of stress, a

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distance will grow up between them based on the fact that the
young persons have nothing in common with the sufferings of
their parents. Pioneer parents did not leave their children
in safer places while they pushed west to build a new country.
Those children shared in the building.
Wise parents do not try to seek complete safety for their
children. We have had more deaths from automobile acci­
dents than England has had from air raids in the same length
of time. But we do not forbid our children to ride in cars.
W e do emphasize precaution in cars. W e must learn and
practice all proper precautions in regard to air raids and war in
general, and then go about our business, not preoccupied with
danger but intent on doing the best jo b possible. W e must
encourage our children to accept the challenge of work and
the opportunity to face life’ s realities.

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Prepare yourselves for whatever the future may bring.
Help your children to continue living their everyday lives.
Tour children can take it if you can.

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Price 5 cents

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Th is pamphlet was prepared by Frederick
H. Allen, M. D., Director, Philadelphia
Child Guidance Clinic; Mildred C. Scoville,
Executive Assistant, Commonwealth Fund;
George S. Stevenson, M. D., Medical
Director, National Committee (or Mental
Hygiene; Douglas A . Thom, M. D., Direc­
tor, Habit Clinic for Child Guidance,
Boston; Caroline B. Zachry, Ph. D., Direc­
tor, Institute on Personality Development
of the Progressive Education Association.


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